PART 2 (If you haven't done so already then
part 1 first.)
|Step 8. Determine how your child
is going to quit heroin
How they quit depends on
where they stand in the matter. If your son or
daughter came clean to you and reached out for
help on their own, then great! Wonderful! Be
thankful. You’re more than half way there. And
you’re in a much better position than most
As long as they want to
quit and are ready and willing to do so then you
can present them with options for quitting. i.e.
cold turkey, warm turkey, Suboxone, etc. However, if the problem
with your child and heroin has been going on for
some time and they just can’t seem to quit, nor
even wants to, then some sort of inpatient
treatment may be the best option for them.
And this is usually the
case with most heroin addicts who just can’t
seem to quit, or simply don’t want to. But even in situations such
as this, you can still offer the addict options
as well as most addicts are simply not willing
to enter inpatient treatment by force. And in
this manner, they can be given chances so that
they are without excuse. If they fail with one
option, then it’s on to the next. In other
words, if they can’t quit heroin cold turkey,
for whatever the reason may be, then it’s on to
warm turkey. If they can’t quit heroin in that
manner, then it’s on to Methadone or Suboxone.
And if they fail to quit and stay clean in that
manner, then it’s on to short term detox
accompanied by counseling, meetings etc... And
if they still cant stay clean in that manner,
then it’s on to inpatient, residential
But of course that’s a
matter which needs to be handled between you and
your child. But if they live in your home then
you have the final say in the matter - not them.
And if inpatient, residential treatment is the
only way, then inpatient, residential treatment
Step 9. Approach your child
Before speaking to your
child about quitting heroin it would be best to
spend 30 minutes or more alone, in silence,
preparing yourself, meditating and thinking of
how you're going to conduct yourself and
what you're going to say.
Think about what 'words' you’re going to use to inspire,
motivate and encourage your child to take action
in their life and allow you to help them quit
heroin and stay clean for good.
everything might not go as planned, you'll come
pretty close if you’re well prepared beforehand.
Try your best to become 100% completely
calm. Remove all anger, resentment, and
Think on thoughts of when
your son or daughter was just 7, 10, and 12
years old. Think of how they used to be
before this heroin addiction took over, and hold
on to those thoughts when dealing with your
child. That is the child whom you are going to
attempt to save and bring back to life.
Furthermore, to get the
best response from your son or daughter, you
will have to plan on a time where the both of
you can talk in a private setting without any
interruptions whatsoever. You will also have to
try your best to catch your child at the perfect
time, when he or she is neither sick from heroin
withdrawals, nor too high from the heroin
For example; first thing in
the morning may not be the best time to talk to
your child if they haven’t had their fix as of
yet. They’ll be sick from the withdrawals and
the only thing on their mind at that moment will
be to get that first fix of the day just to feel
Likewise, it may not do you
any good to sit and talk with your child when he
or she is high and sedated on heroin. They might
start nodding and fall asleep on you while
you’re speaking to them. You'll have to watch
for the signs and get them at the right moment,
possibly 1 to 2 hours after their first morning,
afternoon, or last fix of the day.
Making an appointment with
them may or may not work. They might get scared
and not show up at all or continue to do
everything they can to avoid you. For the most
part, if your child is living within your home
then you should already be aware of their normal
behavioral patterns and daily routines.
Again, how you proceed from
here depends on whether or not they already came
clean to you and reached out for help. And if
they did come clean and asked you for help then
it would be best to move as quickly as you can,
while doing and saying everything in a kind and
Show them their
options for quitting, along with your
resources as well. Then explain and go through
each option one by one.
Plan A (Resource
1): Quitting Heroin Cold Turkey: Show
them the printed (or online) articles on “How to
Quit Heroin Cold Turkey” along with “How to
Survive the First 7 Days along with my website
Plan B (Resource
2): Quitting Heroin Warm Turkey: Show
them your list of 1 or 2 local, family doctors
who are ready to prescribe your child Valiums,
Xanax, and/or Tramadol or whatever type of
anxiety and pain medication you can get. You can
also show them my article “How to Quit Heroin
with Meds” which
includes the section on
“Quitting Heroin Warm Turkey”. Let them know
that this is just a short term method that is a
lot more comfortable than quitting heroin cold
Plan C (Resource
3): Quitting Heroin with Methadone or Suboxone:
Show them your list of 1 or 2 private family
doctors who are ready and willing to provide
your child with a short term prescription for
Methadone or Suboxone. And show them your list
of 1 or 2 methadone clinics which offer
Methadone and/or Suboxone (or Subutex) as well.
You can also show them my article “How to Quit
Heroin with Meds” which includes the section on
“Quitting Heroin with Methadone” and my other
article “Quitting Heroin with Suboxone”.
Plan D (Resource
4): Quitting Heroin in a Drug Rehabilitation
Center: Show them your list of 1 or 2
drug rehabilitation centers that are ready to
take your child in as soon as possible. You can
also show them my article “How to Quit Heroin in
a Drug Rehabilitation Center”. And if you were
able to obtain pictures of the facilities then
show them the pictures as well.
Plan D Detox
(Resource 4.2) Quitting Heroin in a Detox
Center: Show them your list of 1 or 2
detox centers along with counseling programs
that are ready to take your child in right away
to begin the detox. Let them know that this will
take 5 to 10 days and may be done with a short
term Suboxone program so it will be almost
painless as well.
Then simply ask them, (in a kind and loving
manner) “ok son (or daughter), what’s it going
Then be quiet and let them talk.
If they make their
choice right there and then, then great!
Wonderful! Get started right away. Start
cold turkey, take them to the doctor, or
take them to rehab or to the detox center right away. If your child makes a
choice right there and then, then get started
If they start making
excuses or try to leave then you let them know
that hey, “look son, (or daughter), you came
clean and told me you wanted to quit and that
you wanted help. We now have help and a few,
painless solutions for quitting. So if you
really want this, then let’s get started right
And sometimes, it can
become just like sales. Let them get through all
their excuses and then deal with those excuses,
one by one, fast. But don’t buy into or give
into any of them. Your main objective is to get
them to take action right away.
And again, if they came
clean on their own and made it clear that they
want to quit and asked you for help then you
shouldn’t get too much resistance, (if they
really meant what they said).
However, it’s also
important to understand that at this point, part
of your child may be in panic mode. Part of them
may want to quit, but part of them may want to
use just one more time or even forget the whole
Don’t fall for it. Do
everything you can to keep the process moving
along to the next step as quickly as possible,
(before they change their mind and leave).
However, if you have to
confront your child for the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd
time, then that can become a little more
complicated and will require a little bit of
patience as well. You’ll still have to try to do
everything in a kind and loving manner, but
you’ll also have to be firm as well.
Same as above: Before
approaching your child, try to find some alone
time where you can begin to think about how
you’re going to approach your child and what
you’re going to say, (in a non-confrontational
manner). Remove all anger and resentment and
think about the good times before the problems
with drugs came along. Think about what your
child was like without the drugs in the picture.
And then proceed accordingly.
||Look for the perfect
opportunity to talk to your child
Be on the lookout for the
perfect opportunity to talk to your child. And
when the time is right, then move in for the
save. In a kind and loving
manner, but in a firm manner as well, cut
through the small talk and get right down to
You can open up with, “I know what
you’re going through. I've been doing some
research on the subject of heroin, heroin
addiction, and how difficult it is for someone
to quit heroin. It seems almost
"I have also been reading and learning about
what you go through while going through
withdrawals, the vomiting, the cold chills, the
diarrhea, the back pains, the leg pains, the
bone pains, the anxiety attacks, everything, and
it's horrible. I'm starting to understand how
you feel and what you go through and I'm very
sorry that you have to go through all of that.”
Then you make it real clear to them; “You don’t
have to go through this any more and I want to
help you quit this drug, once and for all”.
Your next move depends on what they do next from
If they submit themselves and stay put to listen
then great! Wonderful! It’s a miracle! Then as
quickly as possible show them their options and
let them know that “we” can do this right away.
Make it a “we” thing so that they know they’re
Show them your resource list for:
||Plan A (Resource 1):
Quitting Heroin Cold Turkey with OTC
||Plan B (Resource 2):
Quitting Heroin Warm Turkey
||Plan C (Resource 3):
Quitting Heroin with Methadone or
||Plan D (Resource 4):
Quitting Heroin in a Drug Rehabilitation
||Plan D Detox
(Resource 4.2) Quitting Heroin in a
Give them all the details,
procedures etc. Explain everything to them as
quickly and as thoroughly as possible in a
step-by-step manner and see what they do from
there. And if they agree and choose one of these
methods right there and then, then get on it
However, if after you
approach them, they begin to get upset, and
start denying everything or claiming sobriety
then you can take out your home drug test kit
and have them take the test right there and
then. But if you already know they’re using,
then there’s no need to argue with them, nor
test them no matter what they say. And if they
keep on denying it then you can simply tell
them, “look, it doesn’t matter what you say. I
know you’re using and this is how things are
going to go.”
“I’m going to give you a
||Plan A (Resource 1):
Quitting Heroin Cold Turkey
||Plan B (Resource 2):
Quitting Heroin Warm Turkey
||Plan C (Resource 3):
Quitting Heroin with Methadone or
||Plan D (Resource 4):
Quitting Heroin in a Drug Rehabilitation
||Plan D Detox
(Resource 4.2) Quitting Heroin in a
Let them know that you can
no longer allow drugs and drug addiction in your
home. You’re not going to allow “wrong doing” to
take place within your home. And you’re not
going to continue to house and support them as
long as they’re doing wrong.”
And then ask them, (in a
kind and loving manner) to please accept your
offer for help.
You can’t force them to
quit drugs but you can force them to make a
choice: Quit heroin or leave the home. And
unfortunately for some of you, this is what it
might come down to; otherwise, nothing will
If they begin to argue in
any way, shape or form then let them know that
“it’s either one of these options or…. leave the
“You need to make a choice,
right here, right now.”
“What’s it going to be?”
“Get help, get clean and
fix your life, or… leave the home”.
Then be quiet and let them
speak or make their next move.
(Most professionals and
interventionist will offer only 2 choices:
inpatient, long term, residential treatment or
total cut off from the family. And many times,
this may be the only hope for some addicts. However, forced
inpatient treatment doesn’t always work for
everyone. And some times, the addict is more
likely to cooperate and choose an option when given the
freedom to do so. And at least this way, you’ll
be giving them a chance to get straightened out
by choice, and not by force. Furthermore, they
are now without excuse.)
If they continue to argue
during the process then let them continue for a
minute or two, (but don’t give into the
argument). And then one more time, repeat
“Make a choice, right here,
“What’s it going to be?”
If they submit themselves
and choose a plan, then get it on it right away.
Start cold turkey. Start warm turkey. Call the
doctor. Make an appointment. Take them to the
clinic. Take them to rehab. Take them to detox.
Whatever plan they chose, (and whatever plan is
feasible), get on it right away. And then keep
It’s very possible, that if
you did everything in a kind and loving manner
and presented their options for quitting as
clearly as possible (presentation is
everything), then they just might take you up on
your offer for help. They may already be sick of
their lives and may see this as a way out. And
that would be the best case scenario.
However... if they refuse
to listen to reason, or they walk away, or
simply walk out the door, then let them go.
(They may think you’re bluffing, or not. But
they may need time to process the information as
well. And with that kind of pressure, they may
feel the need to take off and get high). But
while they’re gone, or while they’re still there
in your home, start packing their clothes in a
suitcase or in a garbage bag right away. Show
them you mean business, only if necessary, (and
without yelling). Include their tooth brush,
tooth paste and deodorant and put it all right
by the door. If they’re still there during this
process and continue to refuse to cooperate then
open the door for them and tell them (in a kind
and loving manner):
“Last chance. What’s it
going to be?”
If they leave, then let
them go. It’s going to be the best thing for
them. There’s a good chance that they went out
to use one last time or one more time before
reality begins to sink in. But if they know that
you’re serious then they’re going to have to
make a choice: Heroin or the family. The
streets, or home.
Many parents will not be
willing to send them on their way. But you also
have to understand, that when it comes to
heroin, most addicts will only seek help when
someone or something pushes them out of their
“addiction comfort zone” and forces them into a
decision. And as long as you do everything in a
kind and loving manner, (yet while being firm as
well), then that’s what you may have to do in
order to shake them and wake them up.
However, if you’re so angry
with your child that you just want to kick them
out for good then don’t do it, otherwise, you’ll
be doing it out of anger and not out of love.
And if you do it out of anger then it may not
help at all. You would be better off to cool
down and calm down first, before approaching
your child again.
But if you don’t want to do
it and would rather not have to deal with it,
then that may be the best time to send them on
their way, (again, only if necessary). Because
if we do so when we’re not angry then we can do
so out of love and in hopes that the child will
wake up and change their mind and accept your
offer for help.
Heroin addicts with access
to money, a place to live, and housed by parents
who continue to put up with their drug addiction
rarely seek help. They “don't have a problem”
and see no need for change. But once the
pressure’s on then they have to make a choice:
Heroin or you. Keep using heroin or stop the
madness and change. And only you can help make
that happen. Only you can help them make a
decision to change. The ultimate decision is up
to them, but you can’t stand by and do nothing;
otherwise, nothing will change.
However, also note that if
your child has been cooperative for the most
part and has remained calm and respectable then
you may want to consider giving them 24 hours
max before making a final decision as well, and
in the mean time, don’t enable them in any way,
shape or form. Professionals will tell you
otherwise, but sometimes, we may have to give
them a chance and some time to process the whole
ordeal as well. Otherwise, too much pressure all
at once can cause them to back out at the very
end or enter treatment and leave within a few
days. But again, how you handle the matter is
entirely up to you and can depend on your
child’s’ attitude as well. I believe in giving
them chances so that they are without excuse.
But if the situation is real bad, then their
time is up. But every situation is different,
and you’ll have to decide what’s best for yours.
However, if it does get to
this point, and they leave the home without
their belongings then most likely they’re going
to come back that same night or the next day as
well. They can’t go too long without clothing.
And they may also call you back the same night
or the next day apologizing as well. It happens,
more often than not.
If they have any money at
all, then it’s not going to last them for too
long. If they have any friends at all, then the
couch surfing is not going to last for too long
as well. They’ll be back. But you can’t let them
back into your home until they make a choice –
until they choose the family over heroin and
then submit to treatment, whatever that form of
treatment may be.
And unfortunately, this is what it may come down
to for a lot of parents. Yet how many chances
you give them is totally up to you. And it’s
also important to realize that most heroin
addicts will relapse several times no matter how
hard they try.
But it doesn’t mean that you have to keep
accepting it as well. You can give them 3
chances for example, or what is known as the 3
strike rule: strike 1, strike 2, strike 3 you’re
out. 3 failed attempts or 3 failed drug test and
they’re out the door, and hopefully into
inpatient treatment. You can allow them back
into the home as long they begin and continue in
their treatment and remain clean from heroin.
(But that is totally up to you) And during this
time, you can drug test them as often as you can
to make sure they’re clean; because a home drug
test kit for opiates is the only way to know for
sure. And again, how many chances you give them
is totally up to you and can become dependent
upon their attitude as well.
And I do realize that in
many cases, there may come a time in which you
have given your child so many chances and
opportunities to change and yet to no avail, and
that sooner or later you may have to put your
foot down and send them on their way.
If they simply don’t want
to quit then their only hope may be “complete
detachment”, where you tell your child; “I love
you, and I really hope you’ll quit using heroin.
I’m willing to do whatever I can to help you
quit this drug, stay clean, and turn your life
around. But you need to decide once and for all,
which relationship is more important to you.
Is it your relationship with heroin or your
relationship with your family? Because you can’t
have both. It’s either heroin or your family.”
If they choose you, the
family, then great! Help them!
But if they choose
heroin then send them on their way.
them the hotline or help phone number(s)
from your resource list and then send
them on their way.
This may be harsh,
and it is, but it just might be their
only hope left, and you might just very
well be saving their life; because
heroin addiction doesn't get better by
itself. It only gets worse, if nothing
is done to put on the pressure and
“raise the bottom”.
detachment” is the last resort.
But for some addicts, it may become
necessary just as well. And once they
see how lonely it is out there, how
awful it is to be away from home, then
hopefully, they’ll wake up, come back
home, beg for forgiveness and submit to
treatment. And then proceed from there.
And this is why we send
them on their way; so that they can wake up and
hopefully, reach out for help. We’re hoping that
it never gets to this point. But if it does,
then you must be willing to send them on their
way; otherwise nothing will change.
What if my child
lives away from home?
If your child is living
elsewhere, away from home, then for the most
part, proceed as instructed in part 1 and part 2
of this article:
|1. Gather your resources
|2. Cut off all financial support
|3. Contact your child
|4. Explain to them their options for
quitting (via email, text and by phone)
|5. Give them all the contact phone
numbers (via email, text and by phone)
|6. Give them my website address
www.HowtoQuitHeroin.com (via email,
text, and by phone)
|7. Walk them through everything
|8. Encourage them to take action
right away and then hope for the best
they truly want to quit then work with them and
walk them through it. If they truly have a heart
felt desire to quit heroin, stay clean, and turn
their lives around then help them to do so.
But if not, then start pulling back. If they
keep calling you, asking for money one day, and
then telling you the next day that they want to
quit, then asking for more money, and then the
day after that calling to chit chat as if all
was well then obviously they're not serious
about quitting, at least not right now. And if
that be the case then the best thing to do for
you and for your child would be to start pulling
Don't chase them, don't call them, don't text
them, and don't email them anymore. You’ve
already sent them all the information they need
via email, text and over the phone. Now it’s up
to them to put forth an effort to change. And
with all of these options there is no excuse.
But if they're not serious about quitting heroin
and changing their lives then start pulling
back. If you've offered them help, instruction
and guidance along with all of your resources
and contact phone numbers and they still have
not put forth a genuine effort to change, then
start pulling back.
Your son or daughter should only be calling you
for 2 reasons and that is to apologize for
everything and to reach out for help. But if
they're calling you for small talk or to ask for
money, then say no, make it short, and end the
conversation. If they call you and act as if all
is well and nothing is wrong then keep quiet,
short and end the conversation.
And for some of you, it may come to the point to
where it may be best to tell your child, “don’t
call me unless you’re calling me because you
want help to quit or you need a ride to rehab.
But until then, don’t call me any more”.
But in the mean time, don’t let them get their
way. Don't let them have the best of both worlds
– the family and their drugs. Don't let them
have heroin and the closeness of the family at
the same time. It's one or the other. Otherwise,
there’s a good chance that nothing will change.
They need to know and feel that all is not well
and that you and your family are very hurt over
the matter. And if they want to make things
right then they need to choose you, the family,
over heroin. They need to put forth a genuine
effort to seek help and quit this drug once and
Worse case scenario: If you simply can't get
through to your child at all then send them a
text message with my website address:
www.HowtoQuitHeroin.com That's it.
Nothing more, nothing less. And then hopefully,
your child will visit my website out of
curiosity. From there, the rest is up to them.
And anything can happen.
||How to help your child
||It’s important to remember that just
because he or she may have accepted your offer
for help and has chosen to quit heroin - it’s
not over yet. And in fact, the battle has just
begun. Over the next
several weeks your child is going to go
through the greatest battle of their
life. With or without detox, rehab or
medication, they’re still going to go
through a great struggle just to stay
clean. And this struggle is not only
physical, but even more so mental as
This drug is going
to be calling them back, every single
day. They’re going to get hit with
thoughts of using heroin, every single
day. And that struggle is going to go on
for a long time. But in the mean time,
there are some things that you can do to
help your child win the battle and stay
clean for good.
help and guidance, you can begin to lead them on
'the right path'. And in the fullest sense, the
both of you will be starting your lives all over
again from scratch.
In order to increase their
chances of staying clean for good, you may want
to start by identifying and then addressing the
root(s) and cause(s) of the problem. i.e.
improper or loose child raising, bad upbringing,
past negative incidents, bad friends, bad music,
bad TV, boredom, loneliness, bad environment
Start thinking of all the
reasons which may have contributed to the drug
problems in the first place in order to remove
the cause(s). And this is something that you can
talk about with your child as well.
Write down the causes and
then begin to create a step-by-step plan to deal
with these causes right away.
For example: If part of the
problem was due to improper or loose child
raising then start all over again from scratch.
Start raising your child all over again no
matter how old they are.
You can become more
strict and more watchful, yet more
loving and compassionate as well. You can become
more concerned about 'raising' and 'influencing'
your child in a much more better manner.
start showing them more love and attention and
start spending more time with them. You can set
new rules and guidelines within the home. And as
long as your child is living under your roof
then they have to abide by your rules, no matter
how old they are. It’s your home, so don’t be
afraid to lay down the law.
You have more control over
how your child's life turns out than what you
might think. You can start doing everything you
can to learn proper child raising principles no
matter how old they are.
You can begin to
retrain and influence your child in a correct
and proper manner and in time they just might
Negative or tragic
events from the past may have to be
dealt with as well before they can move forward
in a much more positive manner. And this may
require some sort of counseling.
Bad friends will
have to be removed from your child's
life and replaced with drug-free, family members
and friends as well. Your son or daughter will
have to be surrounded by caring and loving
people who truly have a genuine concern for your
child's welfare and recovery.
If you have a son, then
you'll want to involve older, drug-free, male
figures who can become a good example for your
son to look up to. If you have a daughter then
you'll want to involve older, decent and moral
female figures to take on the big sister role.
Bad music may also have to be dealt with
as well. And since music has such a powerful
effect upon a persons’ behavior, attitudes,
feelings, emotions, temper, actions and
thoughts, then you may want to consider removing
bad music from your home and replacing it with
good music in order to help change and curb your
child's behavior and the atmosphere as well.
A change in music is highly recommended.
Words can not express how important this
one key element really is.
Music is much like a drug which hardly
anyone can live without.
And most likely, the music your son or
daughter is listening to now has such a
stronghold on them that it's just as
strong as, if not stronger than the
Most of today's most popular music in
the genres of rap, rock and even pop is
the worst thing that has ever happened
to this generation and is one of the
most powerful influencing factors on
your child’s behavior and actions as
well. And neglecting this one main
factor will make it very difficult for
your child to change.
They may get clean for a little while,
and maybe even for good, but as long as
they continue to listen to the wrong
type of music then they may also
continue to live a life in a series of
ups and downs.
||They may stay
clean from heroin permanently, but will most
likely have problems in other areas of their
life, especially, with their attitudes and
Music changes people. And if you change the
music then you can help the person to change.
Most of today's most popular music was created
and purposely designed to be used as a tool for
character formation, and unfortunately, of the
worst kind. But it’s not just music; it’s TV as
Most people, especially our younger generation
today, follow their idols blindly, and in time
become, or try to become just like them, by
imitating how they talk, how they walk, how they
act, how they dress, how they live, how they
sing, and everything that pertains to them
including their drug use, which includes weed
and some times, heroin. And many of today’s most
popular music artists are some of the most
immoral people in the world. Thus, character
formation of the worse kind.
We are what we eat. If we eat junk food, then we
become like walking junk and our performance
coincides. Junk in- junk out. We are what we
watch. If you watch porn all day, then
eventually, you'll become a pervert, a sex
addict and whatever else comes in between. And
in the same sense, we are and become what we
listen to the most.
“Thus, what you listen to literally forms what
you become”, LDA.
Rap, hip hop, R&B, reggaeton, rock, classic
rock, metal, techno, pop and alternative are
some of the worst kinds of music that you or
your child could be listening to due to the
filthy, violent and perverted lyrics; the
distorted and sometimes creepy sound; the
hypnotic, pounding, negative beats; the fowl and
corrupt singers; the negative energy and
influence being put forth from the music; and
the evil millionaires behind the record
companies with their hidden agenda.
If you need proof of such then all you have to
do is take a closer look at our younger
generation today. They're going down hill faster
than ever before and at a much younger age as
well. They’ve become a product of the music and
TV combined. And the end result is crime,
cruelty, violence, perversion, drug addiction,
immorality of the worst kind and a great lack of
concern for humanity.
Even plants for example, a
living organism, react to music. Most plants die
when they hear rock-n-roll music long enough.
Bean plants however, don’t die at first. After
playing rock music for bean plants long enough
they begin to get all mixed up and twists in the
wrong direction and then eventually, die. And
some plants just keel over and die.
Softies, oldies, 50's,
60's, 70’s (not classic rock), 80’s, classic country, and even some
clean pop music however are some of the best and
safest types of music to listen to due to the
clean lyrics; the natural and clear sound; the
soft beats; and for the most part, the better
raised singers; the better raised people behind
the music and the more positive energy and
influence being put forth from the music,
without a hidden agenda. I’m not saying that all
of those artists from the past were saints, but
at least they didn’t push sex and drugs in the
manner in which many artists do today.
Good, clean music
helps. Read what these x-heroin addicts
had to say about music:
"you are so right man,
music does effects you, a lot whenever i hear
rock/metal, i remember my old days." BB
heroin nor weed, just sum cigarettes, that too,
once in a month or so, liftin weights keep me
sane, most of it... thanx man, i will never
forget you, ever. nowadays m listening to elvis
presley, frank sinatra, pavarotti etc. i
listened to sum country stuf" BB (male)
"Thanks Jorge, for this
really great info. I've been on a lot of
addiction drug boards, and never knew some of
the stuff you have written back to me.
Currently, I almost feel like I can stand on 2
feet, and I have taken your advice about the
valerian root. It helps a lot with the calming.
And the music, i managed to actually
make a few CD's and made it
through work today. I'll get those movies you
recommended, I used to love to watch movies
before this, and funny movies. Thanks again,
great website and info...!!! JJ (male)
"Really like the music bit in your essay.That
did work for me, listening to good music" JJ
"I'm on my 8 night... I
really enjoyed your website you need to let the
people know that music really helps!!!!!"
"we are now dec 27th with
out any issues. again I think we are getting
there, for the parents out there that want to
give up don't. each time we took him a little
longer in days till I now think we have done it.
We have used your program as are guide and didnt
give up. Guided him to find new friends, music.
thank you for
putting this site up !!! We
have done this with out any meds of any kind so
it can be done. I will keep you posted. Thanks
again." JJ (father helping son)
"Day 42 no nothing!!!!!...
I can't express in words how your link helped, I
also can't believe the music you recommended -
now I know why people loved Elvis and 60s etc...
I ain't listen to hip hop , drum n bass for a
while. I hope and pray that others find your
site and change their lives..." AU
"...to be honest, I was
really skeptical of the music thing on your
page, I didn't think it could have that big of
an effect. However, I decided to try it.. so i
went and listened to I Will Survive. Not gunna
lie, it made me cry...but in a good way, like I
was smiling too. I have it on repeat right now,
really uplifting (: I know
day 3 is going to be hard
too.., but I'm excited to get through it and get
to day 4. and then to day 30..." AB
Good, clean, positive music
helps. And good music performed by good people
can make a huge difference in your child's
recovery. It even helps to have the good music
playing on in the background at home or in the
car. You may even have to sneak the new music in
carefully, but eventually it will serve its
A good parent leads by
example. It’s your home and you have the right
to ban any and all bad music from being played
within your home. And these are not extreme
measures by any means. It's just good common
sense. Don't be afraid to lay down the law.
and loneliness, you'll have to plan on
doing everything you can to eliminate the
boredom and loneliness which your son or
daughter may go through during and after
recovery. Boredom and loneliness is a
dangerous place to be. And it’s in those moments
where they will begin to think about heroin.
Your child will start thinking and dwelling upon
the thoughts of using heroin and how good they
used to feel because of the heroin. And if they
continue to think about it long enough then just
like that, they'll get up, get
out and go use.
Although eventually, your
child may become busy with work and/or school.
But in the mean time, you may want to start
planning fun and productive activities to do
with your child on a continual bases. And if at
all possible, try to start involving drug-free,
decent, family members and friends to help keep
your child busy
throughout the week.
For example; joining a gym
with your child and/or doing some form of
exercise, such as walking, jogging, running or
biking, and taking long walks in the park.
Walking through beautiful and natural scenic
views can also help greatly as well.
You can both go hiking,
site seeing; rock wall climbing; walking in the
mall; shopping for even one item, a piece of
clothing or a music CD; going to parks just to
hang out and talk; visiting the zoo; bowling; go
kart racing; horse back riding; skating;
watching inspirational movies at home and any
other kind of fun activities and events that you
can think of. And if at any time you’re not able
to accompany your son or daughter in such
activities then you might want to find someone
Plan wisely and then try to
do as many fun activities as you can in order to
keep your child's mind busy, off of heroin and
on the moment at hand. Try to keep it fun and
active in order to keep your child in a positive
state of mind.
You'll have to counteract
your child's feelings of loneliness by
surrounding them with drug-free, family members
and friends. Try to involve as many people as
you can in your child's recovery who you know
for sure are drug-free, decent people who can
become positive role models for your child.
This will help them
greatly, not only during recovery, but also for
the many months to come. And if you're truly
determined and dedicated to saving your child's
life, then plan on being in this battle for the
long run: 6-12 months or more.
Bad environment: Depending on
how bad the situation is, and/or how close your
home is to the drug spots and drug dealers, it
can become very difficult for your child to stay
clean in such surroundings and familiar
environments. And if any difficulties should
arise, then you may want to consider
“relocation” as well.
Sometimes, if the user is weak and remains in
their current environment, it can become very
difficult to resist the urge to use. And this is
also why many addicts tend to relapse within
days after returning back home from inpatient,
drug rehabilitation programs.
And although relocating may seem extreme to the
non-user, it may become necessary for some
addicts to do so if they continue to have
difficulties staying clean within in their
current environment. Hopefully, it won’t get to
that point. But if it does, then relocation may
be something to consider. And a fresh, new start
clean and new environment may be just what your
child needs to start a new and better life.
To avoid any possible
triggers for relapse, it would be best to write
down your master recovery plan on paper and then
stick to it. And if you think that some or none
of the above is necessary, then think again. If
you think that it’s just a matter of helping
your child get clean for a few weeks and then
all will be well, then think again. This stuff
takes times, hard work and patience.
Furthermore, your child has to really want this
and do their part as well.
Experts believe that true
recovery begins after the user has abstained
from heroin for 1 year. And your child will be
most vulnerable during the first 3 to 6 months
but will still need guidance and care for the
rest of the year. And during this time, it would
be best to perform random drug testing at home.
Staying clean with Vivitrol: If
your child is not able to stay clean from heroin
no matter how hard they try, then you may want
to consider Vivitrol, which is a once-a-month
shot that blocks the effects of heroin and all
opiate drugs for 30 days. Vivitrol has helped
many people stay clean and it can help your
child stay clean too! For more information on
Vivitrol, please read my article,
Clean With Vivitrol”
Surprise Random Drug Tests
During the next few
months, try to purchase a home drug test
for opiates and test your child often,
or as often as you can afford to do so,
especially during the first few weeks.
This will be the best and only way of
knowing for sure if your child is clean
or not. But it would be best to make it
a “surprise” drug test where they won’t
know it’s coming.
It takes 3 to 4
days for heroin to leave the system. So
if you drug test them 4 days after their
last use of heroin, then the drug test
results should come back negative/clean.
But if the test results come back
positive/dirty, then you know they’ve
been using heroin within the last 3 to 4
although performing random drug tests at home
can become costly for some, it would still be
best to do so whenever possible. It’s better to
know the truth, than to not know at all.
Heroin, is not an easy drug to quit; let alone
recover from. This is a process which takes
time. It takes time to undo the damage and start
life all over again. It takes time for the brain
and the body to heal. And it takes time for the
addict to retrain themselves to get used to
living without heroin in their lives. But if
they hang in
there and keep moving forward then it will all
be worth while in the end.
And if you want to save your child's life then
get ready for a long hard battle, and be
prepared to win. For more information on how
your child can stay clean for good, please see
my article, “How to Quit Heroin and Stay Clean
Heroin addiction is the absolute worst drug
addiction in the world, destroying the will of
man, and thus making it difficult for this drug
to be beat. But the truth is, there are people
who quit heroin and turn their lives around. And
your child can become one of those who do so as
well. And you can help make that dream possible
by doing everything you can to help them.
Whatever you do, don't give up, and don't give
up on your child now. Anything can happen, and
anything can change. So don't lose hope yet.
And from here on out, your most famous words to
your son or daughter will be, “You can do
this... You can do this”. You can begin to
brainwash your child with these words in a kind
and loving manner to the point to where they
actually start believing that they really CAN do
this. They CAN whip this thing and turn their
around, once and for all!
Words move people. Words backed
by love and positive emotions, move, inspire and
motivate people to do the seemingly impossible.
Remember: This is a fight -
a fight for the lives of your children. So plan
wisely and then execute your plan with full
force. And whatever you do, don't slow down now.
Keep pressing on and keep moving forward. And
try your best to show nothing but love,
kindness, and compassion to your child.
You can do this. You can
begin to influence your child to at least start
thinking and moving in the right direction. You
can try your very best to lead your son or
daughter on 'the right path'.
Nothing is guaranteed. And
I can’t tell you for sure whether your child is
going to make it or not. No one can. But we
can’t just stand by and do nothing. We must do
everything we can to help our children quit
heroin, stay clean and turn their life around,
once and for all! And we must be willing to do
whatever it takes to do so.
You have more control over
how your child's life turns out than what you
might think. And you can make a difference in
their life, starting now.
Good luck. And
may the good force be with you